I’m different than most therapists out there. What makes therapy with me different?
Well, in order to understand that, let me tell you the quick story of why I became a therapist.
When I was in the music industry in my 20s, with late nights and long days, I had no idea how to make time for my relationships and so I struggled with happy and intimate connections. I was out touring and only paying attention to myself and my wants (not needs). I wasn’t the most faithful person either.
When I was an engineer and producer, I didn’t have the time to build deep relationships. I was too busy focusing on work. Whoever I was dating at the time would often get frustrated with, what they thought, was my lack of care for them or the relationship. One semi-long-term relationship ended when I “chose” music over her family’s weekly dinner. It wasn’t a choice in my mind. It was life.
I tried different partners, tried to figure out what was wrong with them, or tried to ignore the problems, but I could never move forward in a relationship. I always felt there was a lack of connection and communication.
I started reading about relationships, (which is why I eventually became a therapist) so that I could figure out why none of my relationships made me happy and always made me feel like there was something wrong.
The more I learned about myself, the more I realized there were so many things I didn’t know about communication within relationships. I realized I wanted to be in a positive and healthy relationship. I just didn’t know how to.
So, I decided to go to a therapist. Not just any therapist. I found one that specialized in helping people like me. He not only showed me how escape the cycle I was in, but also gave me practical tools I could use to have the relationship of my dreams.
Now, I have been married for over 5 years and been with my wife for nearly 10 years. I no longer struggle with the toxic relationships from my past. Because of this experience, I decided to become a therapist myself so that I could help men who are just like me.